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But also he was, you know, all every single week, he would fly out Monday through Thursday. He would come back Friday, be there Friday, Saturday. Sunday, he would leave again Sunday night, and he was just gone for, like, half of her life growing up. And so that's an example of achieving your goal, but maybe hitting an anti goal as well, which was you probably didn't plan and set out to say don't wanna see my family, you know, my kid growing up for the first eighteen years of life. I'm only gonna be there half the time, but it just kinda came as a byproduct to trying to hit their goal. So now I set out specific anti goals. Like, oh, yeah. I wanna do this podcast, but I don't want it to feel like a bunch of work every week. Right? Like, I'm not trying to make this my job. I want this to be a fun hobby. Right? And so I an anti goal might be, all of a sudden, I'm drowning in work trying to edit this thing and of the thumbnail and write the show notes and do all this stuff, that would be an anti goal. If this if the after pod recording took five hours a week or, you know, ten hours a week to go to produce it. And so by identifying the anti goal upfront, you can make a game plan that that solves it. Do you do that? I do it a little bit differently. Don't call it an anti gold. No. I say here's what here's the price I'm willing to pay to achieve the thing I want to achieve. So for example, when I was I said, When I'm gonna start this company, the hustle, I told my wife, I go, when we were dating, I go, just so you know, the business is gonna come first for the next handful of years because then when we get married and have kids, I'll have more time for that. But Like, right now, business is first, and I'm going to give up vacations. I'm going to give up. The price I'm willing to pay is we're just not gonna have that much time together unless, if the business gets in the way. Right.
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